Abstract
M.A.
Spousal abuse has been a practiced for decades across many cultures. According to the
Domestic Violence Act, 1998 of S.A. spousal abuse consists of physical, sexual,
emotional verbal psychological and economic abuse as well as various forms of
intimidation by a spouse. Abuse against women and children seems to be entrenched in
gender power equalities and hierarchical gender relations prevalent in society. The advent
of feminism, that deals with issues of inequality between the genders, in the nineteenth
century highlighted the problem of spousal abuse and challenged cultural and patriarchal
notions of women.
In South Africa spousal abuse is alarmingly prevalent and deeply ingrained within our
society and is often viewed as a normative rather than a deviant practice. The legacy of
political repression, a declining economy and diminishing job opportunities, insufficient
educational opportunities and racial and ethnic divisions, has for decades generated deep
rooted divisions in our society. Women in particular are the historically the victims of
political and economic exclusion and have suffered the ravages of patriarchy, sexism and
discriminatory practices that have kept them outside of social, political and economic
power structures. In this process, abuse against women has been subtly sanctioned by
society. This reflects the extent to which exploitation and abuse, in varying forms, have
come to pervade the very foundations of our society and have become a socially
sanctioned instrument for resolving conflict and promoting change. Because of the
continued cultural sanctioning of spousal abuse it is often underreported, making
statistics on the subject extremely difficult to obtain.
The present study explored the women’s endogenous factors that contributed to the
maintenance of their abusive spousal relationship. In essence these factors refer to the
thoughts, feelings and beliefs which are significant in the experience of being in an
abusive relationship. The study further looked at how these endogenous factors entrap
women in abusive relationships. In order to contextualise the experience of being in an
abusive spousal relationship the literature review (which makes up the first four chapters
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of this study) concentrated on several different areas. The first chapter addresses the aims
and motivations of the present study. The second chapter deals with established theories
and thoughts about the existence of spousal abuse in relationships. Theoretical
explanations highlighting some of the endogenous maintaining factors in an abusive
spousal relationship are presented. These include psychodynamic theories, systems
theory, feminism, eco-systemic approach, social constructionism and postmodernism.
The third chapter deals with women’s responses to spousal abuse. The fourth chapter
deals with the interaction between women’s socialisation and their response to spousal
abuse. It would seem that abused woman find themselves in varying contradictory
interactional contexts. Their spouse represents the person who loves them the most, yet
he hurts them the most too. Their calls for support by informing others are seen as
dishonouring their families yet when they decide to keep the abuse quiet they are
condemned. These paradoxes confront abused women when they are in need of help,
support and understanding. These cultural and societal norms are confusing and
inconsistent, together with various emotions, serve to paralyse the abused women and
limit their choices.